Monday, August 20, 2012

An education in "baby stuff"


Our first baby-related class occurred a few weeks ago. Moncho and I attended a breastfeeding class led by a lactation consultant who was very informative. We learned about how to achieve a proper latch. We watched some helpful, yet slightly uncomfortable, nursing videos (think colostrum flying across the room and a 45 minute migration of a newborn making her way to her Swedish mother's awkwardly tan-lined breast). I learned different methods of holding the baby so we are both comfortable and I'm sure Moncho learned a thing or two even though he was frequently in and out of the room between pages from the hospital. More than anything, it was mostly reassuring. The educational part however probably could have been achieved through some Google searches.

The best part however came when the 3 hour class ended. The room where the class took place was serendipitously right next to a wing of the hospital where Moncho often works and we were able to sneak into a room with an ultrasound machine and conduct an ultrasound so we could see Anabelle. Never mind that neither one of us knew what we were doing. Sure, Moncho knew how to work the machine but I lost all faith  in his abilities as a radiologist/ultrasound tech after 5 minutes of us both awkwardly proclaiming  "wait...I think that's a leg" or "is that her eye? Why is it open like that...that can't be an eye...can it?" clearly there is quite a bit of skill to getting those pretty pictures on ultrasound day. Skills Moncho and I do not posses. We did see her little heart beating. We also were able to identify the rough outline of her head, maybe a nose and a potential eye. The images were blurry and out of focus but she was in there and it was fun to try and sneak a peak of our future! 

Moncho getting ready to conduct our
fairly unsuccessful ultrasound.

Since writing this post we have also attended a birthing class. So I’m updating our experience here as well.

The birthing class, in contrast to the breastfeeding class, was not reassuring. Prior to this two day 6 hour labor and delivery (horror story) class I had been blissfully ignorant of what 10cm dilated actually looks like. I was previously happily free from the horrific mental image of a baby emerging from a birth canal and very confident in my ability to conquer labor with little pain and low dramatics. I’m pretty sure I’ve seen a video of a live birth before, probably in my sophomore year women’s health class at Tufts. I just don’t remember it looking so dramatic and it certainly didn’t strike fear into me as a sophomore in college. I’m sure the imminence of my own approaching due date made me pay more attention to the actual proceedings of the birthing process compared to when I was 19 years old sitting in a class with the thought of giving birth light years away.

Either way, maybe the striking fear into my heart thing turned out to be good for me because ever since taking the class I’ve been learning and reading everything I can about labor. Watching documentaries, skimming through some of Moncho’s old med school books, looking up journal articles about the birthing process while waiting for meetings in the library…you know, just the normal, if not mildly obsessive tendencies one takes on to feel in control of an uncontrollable situation. I know it will be difficult but I’m not the first person to ever be faced with it and I certainly won’t be the last. However, I still kind of cringe when I hear people say or read the phrase “they call it labor for a reason”. I’m sure the person who named it “labor” was a man and never actually experienced labor… but whatever. It’s happening, and it’s happening soon regardless of whether it’s called “labor”, “a cakewalk”, or anything else.

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